Some people come into our lives at the speed of a soccer mom racing through town in order to get her van full of children to practice on time after a nine hour work day. These are the people who ignite a fire within us, make us see all the colors of the rainbow, smile brighter, and laugh louder. These are also the people, however, who make us see the darkest of days and make us wonder how we ever lost sight of what was important: ourselves.
What we need to realize is not to chase after people who constantly make us wonder, make us feel confused, and leave us astray. We need not to chase after people at all. The ones who effortlessly come into our lives and make us feel at peace while also at home are the ones who don’t require chasing, and they don’t require the extra dragging effort. They simply stay beside us and for us.
In the beginning, we longed for the dramatic sequence of events filled with burning flames and emotional conversations. We longed for the danger and the risks. Once a flame ignites, however, it always has to burn out. It’s inevitable. Rain approaches, winds howl, and winter storms loom ahead. In the end, the flame must cease.
While those around us search for their irresistible flames, we need to be in search of something much greater: home. We need to search for the ones who makes us feel safe, secure, and at peace with ourselves. Flames always burn out, but a home is always there to welcome you.
During the rain, it holds out an umbrella.
During the wind, it brings you indoors.
During the winter storm, it warms you with hot chocolate.
This person is the one who has earned your trust, never seems to have an ulterior motive, and never makes you feel as though you’re a lesser version of yourself. This person helps you embrace your insecurities while also giving you an extra ounce of comfort to put your mind to rest when faced with conflict.
A flame will undeniably burn out.
A home will stand with you through the worst storm.
Lauren is a Ball State University alumna with a Bachelor's degree in English and a concentration in Creative Writing. She enjoys breakfast for dinner with a side of literary enjoyment.