“I developed a bad habit of just letting things happen to me instead of going after what I really want.”
– One Tree Hill
More often than not, we let this happen. We allow everything in our lives to become hectic, crazy, and emotional, when, really, we are in control of our own lives. We control how we respond to situations, and we control how we move forward in our own lives. At the end of the day, though, what do you really want?
Do you want to change your major? Are you trying to get that promotion? What about dating? Is something holding you back from dating a specific person? Do you want to travel, see the world, and experience different cultures?
Every day, we have a choice. We can wake up, smile, and tackle the world or we can go back to bed and avoid the emotional chaos that seems to occupy our minds. We’re all given the choice. We choose to either go after what we want or we choose to lose our ways and allow problematic situations bury us. It all comes down to one characteristic: drive. Without drive, we choose to allow these people to force us to answer their every beck and call, while we simply brush it aside and say it’s because we care about these people.
Even though we say this is out of love or we say we refrain from acting upon our decisions because we want to avoid confrontation and hurt, we’re really only hurting one person in the process: our individual selves. We allow our dreams and our goals to be brushed aside for the sake of someone else’s happiness, but this isn’t how we were designed. We were designed to take risks.
By taking risks, we learn how to understand the difference from right and wrong, we learn to cherish special moments, and we learn how to go after what we want. At the end of the day, we can either remember the moments in which we felt inferior to others around us or we can remember those great leaps of faith we took. In these impulsive leaps, we find what our heart truly desires.
If we don’t go after what our hearts truly desire, then what do we have left?
Lauren is a Ball State University alumna with a Bachelor's degree in English and a concentration in Creative Writing. She enjoys breakfast for dinner with a side of literary enjoyment.