There is one evident truth in life with which I know I can always find solace: You don’t owe anyone anything. This concept can at first be difficult to comprehend or understand because we all know we should treat people how we wish to be treated. Upon hearing, “You don’t owe anyone anything,” you may think that gives you a free pass to be a jerk to everyone who crosses your path.
This is the wrong mindset to have when entering this life in which you don’t owe anyone anything.
Too often, we allow people to have control over our minds and spirits, which results in a feeling of being weighed down because we, too, are aware of this control. We know we allow people to make us feel inferior or insecure, yet we choose to refrain from changing anything about it. Rather than seeking a way out of this suppression, we remain in the dark, controlled, and mediocre.
By living a life in which you don’t owe anyone anything, you begin to solely step forward into different facets of life because you’re simply choosing to do anything in which you find happiness. At the end of the day, it is your mind, and your mind alone, with which has to weigh your daily consequences. Even if you are married, your spouse does not know the inner workings of your brain as well as you do, and he or she cannot feel the weight pressed upon your chest from any suppression you possess. By only choosing happiness, these feelings no longer take root because you finally understand what it means to live for you. Performing tasks for others at the expense of your own joy is no longer an issue for you. This is the true meaning of not owing anyone anything: You understand your worth, and you decide to not settle for less than you deserve.
When people ask for you to do something for the sake of their own happiness, but at the expense of yours, you don’t owe them anything.
When people want to argue with you about your beliefs because they think they will be able to change your mind with the use of a few harsh words, you don’t owe them anything.
When people from the past want to open closed doors because they think they can convince you they have changed, you don’t owe them anything.
When people repeatedly put you down and suppress you, you don’t owe them anything.
When people want you to do something even though you have consistently and politely declined, you don’t owe them anything.
When people ignore your achievements because they believe theirs are more superior, you don’t owe them anything.
When people refrain from supporting you throughout your life ambitions and dreams, you don’t owe them anything.
When people feel as though they can always play the victims even though everyone knows they are in the wrong, you don’t owe them anything.
When people feel as though they can always get what they want because they make everyone believe they have fragile feelings, you don’t owe them anything.
When people choose to stand beside you during your successes, but then they seem to disappear when you need them, don’t worry. You don’t owe them anything.
Because you should never feel as though you owe anyone anything at the sake of your own divine, pure, and soulful happiness. This life is yours so mold it and create it. Find your happiness and hold on to it.
Lauren is a Ball State University alumna with a Bachelor's degree in English and a concentration in Creative Writing. She enjoys breakfast for dinner with a side of literary enjoyment.