While many college students feel the need to accompany others for every event–social or academic–and they can hardly understand someone’s ability to enjoy a night away from hoards of people, there are many college students who find it empowering to enjoy blissful nights away from the masses of students who seem to be attached by chain linked arms. These are also the students who find exhilaration in focusing on the future because they do not have to worry about when they will leave their friends. They’ve already accepted the fact that everyone goes his or her own way after graduation, and those who wish to stay in touch will put forth the necessary effort.
You know these following situations all too well if you define yourself as the independent college student.
Eating lunch by yourself doesn’t stress you out.
In fact, you enjoy a little alone time. Your previous class completely screwed with your mind, and now you’re able to find your center and enjoy your PB&J. You don’t mind to have company, but you also don’t mind a little lunch date with yourself.
When given the option, you prefer to do assignments alone.
This is your opportunity to take on a challenge without worrying about compromising your own desires for your final product. Do you want color in your design? Go for it. Do you want to make this a video game for project? Create the video game. The opportunities are endless, and here is your opportunity to show your professor why you’ll shine in the workforce.
You don’t worry about finding that special someone while you’re away at school.
Here is the kicker. A lot of us are told that we’ll find our future wives or husbands while we’re at our respective universities, but if you’re the independent soul who doesn’t rely on anyone–except maybe your parents in dire circumstances–you view finding that soul mate as tiring and unnecessary for your future. You view it as you’re paying to go to school. You aren’t paying thousands of dollars to find your future hubby or wifey. If you find that person, then you’ll be okay with it, but it is not at the top of your priority list at the moment. Right now, you want to meet cool people, enjoy your freedom, and get a killer GPA.
The thought of starting your career excites you.
Sure, at the beginning of your job searching, you may feel a little down because you’ll either find menial jobs or jobs with poor pay. However, once you show those people who you are and what you can handle, you know you’ll kill it in the game. You have your eyes on your dream career, and you won’t let anyone stop you from obtaining your desires.
You love the feeling of not needing to answer to anyone.
When your friends feel guilty for going out during the weekends and leaving their significant others alone, you choose to dance the night away and talk to anyone and everyone because you can. You’ll never feel guilty about doing so because you are your own boss, and you make your own rules.
You enjoy picking up new or strange hobbies.
While other people rely on others to make plans for them, you are out and about meeting new people and learning new skills. You know one guy who plays guitar every day outside your favorite building, and you have no problem going up to him and asking him to teach you a few chords. Maybe, one night, a new chic band is playing at a local bar, and you have no problem going out to support them. Finding new hobbies without the need to search for anyone else’s approval is liberating to you, and you’ll use this newfound feeling to your utmost advantage.
Lauren is a Ball State University alumna with a Bachelor's degree in English and a concentration in Creative Writing. She enjoys breakfast for dinner with a side of literary enjoyment.