When we go to college, there’s an understood and unspoken agreement that many of us drift apart from our best friends. However, for those of us who continually keep tabs on each other, something as little as a summer apart can seem as though it’s a life-altering change. No longer are you planning get-togethers throughout the week and spending days lying out in your backyards. Instead, you have to find ways to keep up with each other.
Here’s what it’s like to spend the summer apart from your best friends.
Group messages become your lifelines.
We all hate them. Most of us even despise group messages. When it comes to keeping up with your friends, however, you depend on them. When one of you meets a new beau, you can count on it to be included in the next intense conversation you have with your teammates. Messages filled with “I miss you,” “Please come home xoxo” and “I need to get my life together” flood your inbox throughout your week and you can’t wait to reunite so these details can be shared in person rather through the technical atmosphere.
Having parties without your best friends is almost pointless.
“Hey guys! I’m having a party next week. Please come.” Sound familiar? When your friends are out of town and can’t come to your shindigs, you want to completely cancel having your get-together because who else do you want to dance the night away with when your girls are M.I.A.?
You live vicariously through each other’s Snapchats, Instagrams, and all other forms of social media.
It’s Friday morning and you can tell your best friend got a little too crazy on Thirsty Thursday, but it’s okay because you can count on her to fill your morning/afternoon with hilarious drunken and hung-over videos. Then you know it’s time to counsel her and tell her to be safe, don’t talk to strangers, and to take care of herself so she can own her workplace the next day.
You begin to plan every waking moment you all will spend together.
“Okay so you get back on the 10th at 6:30 p.m. That means you can catch up with your ‘rents, then by 9:30 p.m. we can all eat pizza like savages and retell all of the stories we’ve already told each other, but this time we’ll have facial expressions and gestures.” Don’t lie to yourself. You know it’s true.
You start to tell all of your other friends about your best friends, but they don’t understand your bond.
They just don’t understand why it’s so funny that your best friend actually likes this guy because they don’t understand her avid “no boys allowed” mentality. And, because they don’t understand this, they don’t understand why it’s so funny that your other best friend has bruises from a night out. “How does she not know how she got them?” They don’t understand.
You consider yourselves the modern day Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants.
Even though you don’t have a magical pair of pants in which you all feel as though you’re on top of the world, you have the magical world of the group message in which you can all share your summer stories. This way, you can run to the bathroom while you’re at someone’s house and type “WHAT DO I DO?!” while your best friends either give detailed responses about how to handle your situation or they tell you to run, leave, and never look back. This way is much better because you’re all too impatient to write a letter filled with calligraphy and doodles and then wait for FedEx to deliver your magical pants.
You cannot wait until you’re all reunited once again.
A summer apart from your best friends is too long. You can’t wait to hear about your best friends’ internships, boys, crazy nights out, and everything they checked off their summer bucket lists. We all like to think we’re independent women who don’t need anyone else, but we really do like it when we have our best friends by our sides no matter what we’re doing. Whether you’re having a sleepover in a tent or enjoying your first night out together when you’re all 21, you know they bring out the best in you, and you wouldn’t want to spend another three months without them.
Lauren is a Ball State University alumna with a Bachelor's degree in English and a concentration in Creative Writing. She enjoys breakfast for dinner with a side of literary enjoyment.