If she doesn’t make you want to jump out of bed every morning, then let her go.
If she doesn’t make you thank God for her every time she smiles, then let her go.
If you don’t feel a desperate need to call her after not talking to her all day, then let her go.
If you don’t want to make all her dreams come true, then let her go.
If the thought of her crying alone at night doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, then let her go.
If you find yourself noticing other women, then let her go.
If you no longer feel compelled to show her how much you love her, then let her go.
If you can’t imagine waking up to her every morning, then let her go.
If you don’t imagine sharing your last name with her, then let her go.
If you don’t find yourself dreaming about what your future children would look like, then let her go.
If the thought of sharing your last breath with her as you hold her dry and aged hands doesn’t make you want to make every moment count, then let her go.
Settling. That’s what we call it, right? We graduate from college, find ourselves in our careers, and then we’re supposed to find our spouses. We’re supposed to settle down. We’re supposed to have this false image of finding the person we’re going to spend the rest of our lives with because we’re told that moment will be the moment in which we settle down.
Ponder this: You notice a friend of a friend, a coworker, or even a stranger from across the room. You talk, laugh, and then maybe make plans to have your first date. You suddenly realize you haven’t felt this sudden surge of butterflies or this carefree air about you since you were in college or maybe even high school. You begin to remember this person’s mannerisms, the way this person laughs, and the feeling you get when this person calls you after a hectic day at work.
Eventually, you find yourself falling in love with this person.
Days turn into weeks, weeks into months, and so on.
Eventually, you find yourself on the brink of marrying this person.
Settling down. That’s what they’ve always called it.
What if this person doesn’t make you feel as though you’re settling? What if you thank God every night because you realize He could not have blessed you with someone who makes you feel this inspired? This is how it should be. If you feel as though you’re settling, then you probably feel as though you do not have the patience to wait for that person who will make you want to soar through the sky, venture around the sun, and speed through the stars. You probably feel as though this person is safe, the easy way out, and will give you the by-the-book instructions on how to get married, have kids, and make the rest of your family happy.
If you feel as though you’re settling, let her go.
She does not deserve to spend the rest of her life with someone who feels as though he is settling.
She deserves the man who will not only support her in everything she does daily, but also someone who will encourage her to do more than she deems possible.
She deserves someone who will stand by her when she’s crying because she didn’t get the internship she had always dreamed of having.
She deserves someone who lifts her up, both physically and emotionally, because he doesn’t want her to ever feel as though she’s stuck on the ground and rooted to doing anything mediocre.
She deserves someone who wants to scream on the sidelines of her life while she tackles all of life’s obstacles because he knows she is strong enough to do it all on her own.
She deserves someone who wants to surprise her because he always wants to add the extra zest to her life.
She deserves someone who sings with her in the car even though they both know they belong nowhere near American Idol or even karaoke night at the local bar.
She deserves someone who recites all her favorite book quotes because he knows her heart will always reside in the lives of the literary.
She deserves someone who opens doors for her and walks her to her door because he knows she would do the same.
She deserves someone who asks about her day because he genuinely cares about her life outside of their relationship.
She deserves to feel wanted as much as she wants you back, and if you can’t give her this, then you know what to do.
Let her go.
Lauren is a Ball State University alumna with a Bachelor's degree in English and a concentration in Creative Writing. She enjoys breakfast for dinner with a side of literary enjoyment.