Our lives are similar to puzzles. We have a multitude of different aspects within our lives, and we possess the responsibility to somehow place them in the correct sections of our lives in order to achieve an optimal balance between happiness and sacrifice. For some reason though, some individuals seem to think we must sacrifice our current happiness in order to eventually achieve lifelong euphoria. While in some scenarios this is the responsible approach to take, it is not the only approach.
I'm here to tell you why.
I used to be in a rough place in life in which I tried to make everyone around myself happy. This ranged from sacrificing all of my free time to visit others and leaving little space for personal time to trying to adapt to new ways of living in order to feel accepted. I began spending all of my time with someone who tried to form me into a new person, which then led to a complete loss of self. It is human nature to believe we will receive good karma if we constantly place others above ourselves, but this actually might be the highest false claim one can make.
Once I realized my downfall a little over one year ago, I took the responsibility of surrounding myself with good energy and eliminating the negative energy. The latter seemed to cloathe my lifestyle and bask my being in thoughts of needing to live up to others' expectations. During this transformation, I found the courage to imprint myself with a statement I had wanted for quite some time: ellipsis. Three simple dots. In writing, one can place ellipsis ( . . . ) in a place in which a section of a sentence or paragraph is not needed. For example, let's say a paragraph of a book says, "Some people believe in their dreams and others do not, and those who believe in theirs will succeed." If you were to paraphrase the sentence with ellipsis, you could say, "Some people believe in their dreams, and . . . [they] will succeed." Essentially, I want to live in such a way in which I can eliminate the unnecessary while still remaining true to myself. By eliminating the unnecessary negativity, I can lead a positive lifestyle consistently filled with happy moments every day rather than live a lifestyle in which I am constantly searching for happiness.
Good energy will surround you if you remain in the mindset of forbidding negative energy to consume yourself. When I begin to wonder why others possess an unnatural resentment toward myself, others, or life in general, I can look at my ellipsis and take a deep breath knowing I have control of my mindset. Positive living is solely based on one's mindset, and by understanding you are the sole controller of your personal mindset, positive energy should begin to surround you once you start the process of ridding yourself of everything except the bare necessities.
Essentially, focus on the good vibes. They are wonderful for the soul.
Lauren is a Ball State University alumna with a Bachelor's degree in English and a concentration in Creative Writing. She enjoys breakfast for dinner with a side of literary enjoyment.